How is Couples Help any different from
seeing a marriage counsellor or clinical psychologist?
That’s a really good question, and I’m glad you asked.
I am immensely grateful for all medical and other professionals in our country who are committed to the restoration of relationships. I also believe that every couple is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all blanket solution.
Having said that, Couples Help is largely about Intensive Therapy.
Most traditional counseling approaches involve an hour a week or something along those lines. But these short disconnected patches of time often lack a sense of continuity, and many couples are left feeling helpless and powerless when the rubber hits the road in the grind of every day life. In many cases, these sessions ultimately become a guide to an amicable divorce, or at best, a relatively easier living arrangement.
My own personal story led me to realise that Intensive Therapy, on the other hand, has had an overwhelming track record of over 95% of relationships restored to wholeness. It involves a solid chunk of time, two or three days spent with the couple in their own home.
This isn’t a weeknight checklist-item.
This is real life. Real conversations. Real context.
It takes time, courage and commitment, both from the couple and the therapist. And sadly, very few places in our country offer Intensive Therapy. I’ve been there, and I understand the pain and hurt of disconnection. But I also understand what it means to have someone who’ll walk the road with you. And having come out the other side, still happily married to my varsity sweetheart, I live what I teach every day.
I believe with all my heart in the restoration of relationships and heart connection. What I offer is not just therapy. It’s an encounter.
With yourselves and each other.