The Art of Loving Workshop

The Art of Loving is a fast-paced deep-learning experience.

The main focus of this workshop is to teach couples to care for the space between them, which we consider as sacred space. Partners learn to nurture the sacred space in a way that develops and sustains a trusting and intimate connection. This program helps couples understand and deepen their relationship by assessing the potential for profound healing, growth, and connection.

“The Art of Loving” implies that learning to give and receive love requires intentionality and the development of our capacity to live in intimacy and connection. During this program, we want to introduce you to the steps, knowledge, and skills needed to broaden your ability to love and be loved. “Loving” reminds us that our experience of togetherness is a constant intentional act. During this program, we want to invite you to the rituals and rhythms required to create a space where you can experience connection and intimacy. You will discover what practical steps and habits will help you move from mechanical to enlightened and conscious love. We will invite you to turn your relationship into a living laboratory for the development of relational intelligence: how to fill your partnership with creativity, wisdom, and generosity of spirit. Relational Intelligence puts partners on the path to relational maturity and is at the core of having successful relationships both personally and professionally.

WHAT'S OFFERED AT THE ART OF LOVING WORKSHOP?

Attending The Art of Loving Workshop demonstrates that you already possess a quality essential to a loving connection: intentionality. A willingness to seek knowledge about your relationship and to apply that knowledge effectively is a great way to start an enduring, deeply satisfying relationship. The Art of Loving employs both “learning” and “doing” methods to help you find your way to a conscious marriage or relationship that will last two lifetimes.

The Art of Loving is an integrative and interdisciplinary model for relationship building. It lies at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology, and relational neurobiology and based on four main pillars: the philosophy of Martin Buber, Imago Relationship Theory and Practice, Appreciative Inquiry, and the new frontier of Relational Neurobiology and Memory Reconsolidation. It is an approach that promotes transformational change, a visceral, cellular, and internal shift, one that is dependable and sustainable. As new empirical studies have shown, excellent and strong relationships help the brain change and develop in a way that promotes even better relationships.

Choosing pre-marriage counselling can be difficult, to find out if it’s the right choice for you, simply email louis@coupleshelp.co.za today.

What to expect

In The Art of Loving, you will be invited to master the skill to:

1. Communicate effectively

2. Listening with empathy

3. Be connected and stay connected in conflict

4. Talking about what hurts, in conflict, in a way that is not blaming and shaming but a way in which your partner could understand and nurture you.

5. Discover your own deeply rooted beliefs and behaviours in pain that breaks down connection

6. Discover your partner’s deeply rooted beliefs and behaviours in pain that break down connection

7. Take responsibility for self-development that would help you to be an accountable, adult and self-reflective partner in marriage.

8. Discover your relationships growth potential, and develop a relationship plan to utilize the potential to grow to a competent couple in love.

9. Learn caring behaviours that would create a space filled with vulnerability and nurturing.

This is an opportunity to prepare yourself for one of the most challenging journeys of your life. A good successful marriage does not depend on the fact that you met the right person, or that you love each other, but relies on the skills you develop that is needed for a committed relationship.

This is an invitation to take control of your love story, consciously writing chapters of care, understanding and deep connection. This is an opportunity to learn how to create a space for your love to grow and flourish. The Art of Loving invites couples to acquire the skills to develop a lifetime of love and connection. The Art of Loving invites couples to deepen their competency and fine-tune their connection skills.

Schedule

8:00 am - 9:00 am
Introduction: In The Art of Loving, you will be invited to develop 8 Rituals that should become part of your daily lives as a couple. A ritual is something that you frequently participate in that helps you to form habits that lead to new behaviors and new experiences of reality. Across the day we will teach you how to engage in each of these rituals with your partner, giving you the tools you need to grow together and develop the intimacy needed for a successful marriage
9:00 am - 10:30 am
Ritual 1: A regular visit to your partners world
10:30 am - 10:50 am
Tea and coffee break
10:50 am - 11:50 am
Ritual 2: Take accountability for your unconscious love expectations
11:50 am - 12:00 pm
Tea and coffee break
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Ritual 3: Understand your partner's “pain” story
1:00 pm - 2:00 pm
Lunch break
2:00 pm - 3:00 pm
Ritual 4: Exercise new believes and new behaviors in pain
3:00 pm - 3:20 pm
Tea and coffee break
3:20 pm - 4:00 pm
Ritual 5: Contain the bad behavior of your partner and regular frustration dialogues
4:00 pm - 5:00 pm
Ritual 6: Do personal growth work
5:00 pm - 5:20 pm
Tea and coffee break
5:20 pm - 7:00 pm
Ritual 7: Closing relational energy leaks and Ritual 8: Caring behaviors

Fees

The workshop fee is R4990

Includes:

-11 hours of learning
-The Art of Loving Workbook
-Tea, coffee and snacks
-Lunch

For more information about Imago therapy pre-marriage counselling in Johannesburg and Gauteng, call Couples Help on +27 (0)79 511 9501 today.

WHEN CAN YOU ATTEND?

The Art of Loving is presented every month on a Saturday from 8am to 7pm at the Mosaiek Teatro in Johannesburg

Upcoming Workshops:

23 May 2020

20 June 2020

18 July 2020

 22 August 2020

19 September 2020

24 October 2020

21 November 2020

5 December 2020

This is an opportunity to prepare yourself for one of the most challenging journeys of your life. A good successful marriage does not depend on the fact that you met the right person, or that you love each other, but relies on the skills you develop that is needed for a committed relationship. This is an invitation to take control of your love story, consciously writing chapters of care, understanding and deep connection. This is an opportunity to learn how to create a space for your love to grow and flourish.

The Art of Loving invites couples to acquire the skills to develop a lifetime of love and connection.

The Art of Loving invites couples to deepen their competency and fine-tune their connection skills.

WHO IS THE ART OF LOVING FOR?

The Art of Loving workshop gives an opportunity to 15 couples to have an encounter with me, without booking private one-on-one sessions during the week.

I have discovered that many couples getting married do not have time or money to spend on a lengthy process of pre-marriage counselling. Couples do not have the money to see a Relationship Specialist for 11+ hours in a traditional one-on-one counselling setup. A process like that can cost up to R11 000 and could take up to 10 weeks to complete. Not only that, but it requires them to take hours off from work, when usually couples getting married are saving up their leave days for the honeymoon!

I have learned that Couples are looking for a deep, fast-paced, enriching experience that would help them to transform in the shortest possible time. Therefore, The Art of Loving is one day, 10-hour group workshop designed to share knowledge and create meaningful encounters that help couples grow in a short space of time: without breaking the bank or taking up leave days.

What to keep in mind before starting? 

-Couples should give their best energy and intention to acquire the skills to be committed, connected and intimate partners for life.
-Successful couples are couples willing to learn and develop new skills.
-Loving is not a natural thing that we are able to do, it is a skill we need to develop and attune.
-Couples should invest in Pre-Marriage counseling, it should be part of a couples budget planning for the marriage.
– All of us love differently, experience love differently and give love differently. Loving someone doesn’t mean that they would naturally feel or give it in a way you appreciate.
-Marriage is a journey that needs planning, preparation and constant redirection

Testimonials

Wow wow wow. We never knew, and now that we know we do, and since we do we enjoy, love, understand and dream our biggest dream!

Tsepho and Angie

Both of us come from divorced backgrounds, we understand the pain of affair and breakup. We did not want that for us. More than ever we feel armored and ready to take control of our love story. Fear for our future was replaced with excitement and competency.

Peter and Lucia

The last year before our marriage, actually since we moved in together, our relationship got strained. We could not understand what was happening, we should be more in love and more connected. We tried dating, more sex, listening to podcasts talking to our parents, it did not help. We became fearful of our future. We believed that both of us are damaged goods and incapable of doing this thing called marriage! The Art of Loving helped us to transform and grow in ways we would forever be thankful. The day of our marriage was beautiful, our Honeymoon an adventure and every day thereafter a journey into a life connected.

Noel and Marry

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